Hello everyone (if anyone is actually still reading this thing!). Time to dust off some cobwebs and get this blog back in action.
First, let me apologize for dropping off the face of the blog planet. This fall was personally very challenging for me and I felt like I was spreading myself too thin. I felt like I wasn't doing a very good job at any of the "jobs" I have - being a mom, being a friend, being a photographer, being a blogger...so I just needed to pare down, step back and think about what I wanted this blog to be, what I wanted from it, etc. What I've concluded is that I really want this to be a place I can come and share my thoughts with my close friends and family and perhaps even a few strangers that wander through. What I intend to STOP using it for is photography promotion. Now don't worry - I'll still post pictures from photo shoots I do (as that is becoming an ever-increasingly larger part of my life), but I'm putting the finishing touches on my preliminary website that will be dedicated SOLELY to my work. Once I get my logo finished by Kim over at MadiLu Designs, the website will be a lot slicker and more professional looking. But for now, at least I've got my domain name purchased and a temporary website up to showcase my work. In the future, I may start a dedicated photography blog, but for now, I'll have my website for my work and this blog will serve more as a personal space.
So now that THAT'S cleared up, let me tell you what specifically prompted me to get back into blogging...
For months now I've been feeling incredibly tired and run down and like I have no motivation whatsoever to do much of anything. My doctor put me on anti-depressants because she said she thought it sounded like depression. Well, I didn't really feel sad or depressed, but I figured the medication was worth a shot, if for nothing else than to kind of give me a spark to get my engine started. Well after being on them for 6 months, they didn't help one bit. I felt the same physically on day 180 as I did on day 1. Oh, except that by day 180 I had gained 10 pounds, felt stressed out more than I had in several years and felt like my brain just never turned off. It was very disturbing. Now, that's not to say that I don't think SRI's work for some people (I have no doubt that they're a lifesaver for some), but as my doctor explained, if you don't have a neurochemical imbalance in the brain, SRI's aren't going to "fix" whatever's wrong. There must be something else going on.
During the 6 months I was on Celexa, I also tried several other "easy" fixes to combat the fatigue - going to bed earlier, going to bed/getting up at the same time, watching less TV, working less on the computer...nothing seemed to help. I mean, I was getting a full 8 hours of sleep every night (at least) and was still waking up tired. So I finally had to face the reality that I'd been trying to avoid -- the most likely culprit of my lack of energy was diet and (lack of ) exercise. Guess what? When you feed your body crappy fuel and you treat your body like crap (by not taking care of it and exercising it), you're going to feel like crap. Shocking revelation, I know.
At about that same time a few weeks ago, Oprah had Kathy Freston on her show again, advocating a vegan diet. Harpo staffers tried a vegan diet for one week and most of the people they interviewed said that they felt better than they had in years and became more conscious of their food choices and how they relate to their morals and beliefs. This really struck a chord with me, particularly the part about raising my consciousness about the food I choose to feed myself and my family. One of the reasons we joined the CSA last year was so that we were more aware of where our food was coming from. Well now I'm realizing that where the food comes from is just one piece of the puzzle - I really need to focus in and find out exactly how particular foods make me FEEL.
I have friends all the time who say, "Oh, I can't eat dairy, it makes me feel like crap" or "I went gluten free for a week and I've never felt better - I must have a gluten intolerance." These statements always surprise me a bit because I don't have that level of awareness when it comes to food. About the only thing I can say is that when I drink too much alcohol, I feel awful the next day. But that's sort of a no-brainer. I've never tried to tie how I feel each day to what FOODS I've eaten. And since I don't think I've gone a day in my life without gluten, dairy AND animal protein, it's hard to single out which food may or may not be contributing to my lack of energy.
So I did a little more reading up on Kathy Freston and discovered one of her books called "The Quantum Wellness Cleanse."
I checked it out from the library, read it and felt immediately like what she was saying made so much sense. In her 21-day plan, she advocates a diet free of gluten, animal proteins, caffeine, alcohol and refined sugars. Instead she steers you towards a diet full of wholesome, plant-based foods. It's about "choosing foods that don't tax the body and make it work so hard; it's about taking a break, but not about starving."
Also, for those people who hear the word CLEANSE and recoil in horror, please know that while this book talks about becoming more aware of food choices, it's really more about raising your consciousness and treating your body with kindness so that you can feel and look your best. It's not about deprivation, it's about awareness.
So people ask, "Isn't it kind of radical to give up all these things entirely for 21 days? Why not just try giving up gluten first?" Well my answer to that is, "What if it's not gluten? Then do I need to sign up for another 21 days of eliminating something ELSE from my diet?" To me, 21 days is infinitely more doable than 42, 63, 84, or 105 days of trial and error. I can do anything for 21 days. Plus, I'll admit it - I have an affection for instant gratification. That's part of the reason I eat the way I do, without really thinking about what a particular food may do to my body. So the thought of drastically changing my diet (for the better) and seeing results in a short amount of time caters to the perfectionist in me, as well as my desire for real, discernible results. Plus, ya know what, part of this IS about discipline for me. I hate to say it, but I'm not a very disciplined person. And the idea of committing to something that may be challenging or uncomfortable for 21 days and seeing that through to the end will do wonders for my self-esteem and feelings of accomplishment. I need to do this so that I know that I CAN do this.
So that brings us to today - today is DAY ONE of my cleanse!! I'm excited, nervous, and, to be really honest, a little scared. Excited for the changes that this will bring to my life. Nervous that I'll have to really change shopping, cooking, and eating patterns that have been firmly established. Scared that it's going to be hard. And uncomfortable. I'm scared that I'll flip out and binge on chocolate and pasta by day 5. And...I'm scared that I'll fail. Fear of failure is what's kept me from doing a lot of things in the past, though, so I'm choosing to walk through that fear. I'm also trying to broaden my idea of success instead of worrying about slip-ups. The perfectionist in me says that even one slip up would constitute failure. But part of what appeals so much to me about this book is that she advocates kindness and tolerance of yourself. It's about "leaning into change", as she calls it. One day or even one meal of conscious eating is better than nothing.
So I'm choosing to challenge myself. I'm choosing to NOT take the easy road this time. I'm choosing to gain insight and clarity into how my diet affects my mood and physical well-being. I'm choosing to break free of the control that food has over me so that going forward on day 22 and beyond, I'm the one in control.
The plan is to blog about my experiences on this cleanse. Warning - the first few days may NOT be pretty! Brian's doing the cleanse with me, though (you know how he likes a challenge!), so it's awesome to have that one-on-one support. But hopefully you'll check in periodically and maybe even give me a little pep talk every now and then -- I can use all the help I can get! Wish me luck!!